The Heart Remains a Child

I’m not sure who came up with the saying first, but it holds true.

A few years ago, I did an interview with Nancy Holder, author of The Wicked Series, several Buffy novels, and countless other books. One of the things that she told me (and I am paraphrasing) was that the fears of teenagers are really the same ones that we have as adults. Experience teaches you how to cover, how to look confident, but inside, an adult has the same yearnings as a sixteen year old.

I have been reading (and watching) a lot of teen drama lately. Partially because of an editing project that I’m working on, but also because I thought about Nancy’s comment. How many times do we have fears about fitting in, being alone, or finding that special person? Unlike braces and high school, those fears are never completely abandoned.

I think this is why teen related literature is so popular.  It’s okay for a teenager to feel these things, and do it outwardly. Because a teen is inexperienced, their flaws and mistakes seem forgivable. And even endearing, in a way that wouldn’t for someone older.

And there is just something cringe worthy about remembering a time when you were not so grown up as you thought. Even if it does seem like that was last week…







A Case of Real

Real life sucks.

Let’s face it, that’s the reason we (grownups) do things for fun. Movies, sports, hobbies of any sort usually have one thing in common. It’s a distraction from all the little things we have to do: pay bills, work, wash, repeat.

I have noticed that a lot of people (myself included) have had issues of late getting things balanced out. Work, play, obligations, family.  It happens.

One thing to remember is that there are going to be those times when you just have to start from scratch. Best intentions, hard work, and good planning works most of the time, but there are still those instances when things don’t go smoothly.

What can you do? Breathe. Pray. Plan.

Meanwhile? Life goes forward, and while there may be problems simmering in the background, those cannot be the focus. Make sure you have some happiness, even with the tears. Have a smile. Remember good things, even if they do hurt. And don’t beat yourself up because things are not perfect.

Keep going.


©2011 Lori Titus